Wednesday, May 18, 2011

This is My Time - My Pace - My Journey

As most of you know (or don't know) this blog is being ran by two of us - Mer and Mo - long time college roommates and friends forever (this August will officially be 23 years). You know it has been a long time when you both get a high school graduation announcement from your other dorm mate of her oldest getting ready to go onto college. We still keep in contact with many of our dorm buddies and they are all lifetime friends. Camping this summer with some, wishing it was with where was I again - oh, that's right - the blog....

...Mer and I are doing this blog together, but we are both doing our own lifestyle change to fit our own lives. Neither one of us sat down and said to each other "I am doing Weight Watchers, how about you?" -  Or -  "Let's try that No Carb thing - that would be fun, right?" - Or "What about running?" There has never been a push or a shove to get me to put on running shoes. Heck, the only thing that I wish I could join Mer for are  her Boot Camp mornings, but the commute would be a killer for that. We both decided (kind of mutually agreed without really saying it out loud) that we were going to do the blog to keep in contact with each other. Give each other support and the best part is this - that when I am typing I feel like I am talking to her face to face or on the phone and sharing my week, my thoughts, my accomplishments and even my let downs. We are both doing this our way, with just a good friendship to keep us going with it.

Well, just the other day I was talking to another friend. She is a huge huge diet workout want to be a body builder kind of person. The gym is her friend at 3 am each morning, the protein shakes, the vitamins, the 6 meals a day, yada yada yada and I applaud her for that. However, when you tell her that you are doing a new "lifestyle" she gets all hyped up. Ok - I will admit that I am using a eating plan she recommended to me, but it took my sometime to actually put it into work. I am just careful what I say to her. Just like the other week I made the mistake by telling her that I had lost more then 20 pounds. She got all excited. Then she started to do the calculating in her head as to how long it took me to lose, so that by July or August I would be down another 30 or was it 20 - I don't know. I told her to stop doing that, because I did have a moment of plateau that lasted for about 2 months and she then says - "oh, you should have called me, I could have done so much for you and your eating habits"! I ask you this - WHY? Why would I do that? She means well, I know, but I haven't hired her to be my personal trainer. If I did, then I would have made that decision on my own! I know she is just trying to help, but for me this is NOT the Biggest Loser. I am not on a TV show trying to beat the others out of the money. I would SOOOOOO love to be on the Biggest Loser, but I do have a job, son to raise and all that.

For me, this is what I remember everyday - when you have decided that you want to make this new journey - YOU are the one that has made that decision for YOU!!! This, my friend, is MY TIMEMY PACE - MY JOURNEY!! Yes, I am grateful to be doing it with Mer (and many other bloggers), but if you push me, wag your finger at me, tell me I am doing something wrong or not "pushing" enough then there is the "might give up factor". I am We all are changing our lives for US - ME - OURSELVES and I. You need to do this at your own pace - the pace that you are comfortable with. When I first started out in January I decided not to do 100 things, but I started with about 20 things, then I added another 10, eventually getting to all 100 things that are going to help me on this losing weight journey to make it a daily, weekly, monthly and everlasting habit.

I will not get frustrated when the scale is not going down - I will not cry when those pants are not fitting on the day I want them to fit - I will not stop until I hit goal !!! Slow, fast, tortoise or rabbit speed - it is all up to me and I will make it work for me!!!!

I hope that both Mer and I have helped some of you and are giving you the support you need on the good days, not so spectacular days and your journey!! We all need more then just a good friend to lend us that "helping hand" when we are looking for it! Thanks to you all for helping me and I look forward to many more applause along my Doing this the MO way journey!!

Staying MOtivated MO


Carla said...

Good for you Mo! You stick to your guns. Thank you for the lovely comment you left for me.

WeightLossTrek said...

You make a great point about sticking to what you believe in and not changing everything constantly to what other people are telling you. If you don't believe in what you are doing, if you are only adopting other peoples ideologies, then you will never succeed. This is a lifestyle change for all of us and it has to be a lifestyle that we are happy with.

Michele said...

MO power too you! Each and every one of us is doing it differently. But not matter what, we are getting healthier and fitter. It doe snot matter how long it takes. We will get there. This is for life. Our life! My life! Have a great weekend!

Mer and Mo said...

You go girl! You said it so well. You do it your way! I don't like being told what to do even if it is good for me. You are so right though we are still taking those baby steps together. And we will make it at our pace.